Are you ready to change? Have you read my book? Do you understand that you
are totally responsible for yourself? Are you willing to come for help if things surface that you feel you can't handle by
yourself? If you have medical problems check it out with your doctor first.
This material contains advanced methods that address deep-seated issues in life. They require
that a person have a mature, stable perspective; they are for self-evolvement. They are not designed to address specific emotional
issues, not are they to be considered as a replacement for medical treatment or sensible psychological counseling.
CONSCIOUS COMPLAINING
YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS! (Read my book to find out for sure how to know that.)
Start this exercise process when you are upset. Pissed, annoyed, angry, confused? Many
feelings all at once? You know you don't like it, you don't like what's happening to you, maybe you don't like what They are
doing To You. This is one way to handle the situation which will not escalate it, and will not leave you with a mess to clean
up, such as you will have if you start to yell, scream, blame, act out, or tell them off. (Then you'll have to deal
with THEIR bad feelings.)
Go into a room by yourself. Allow yourself 10-20 minutes to unload the feelings. Be
aware that they are only feelings. They may feel very bad, but they are not permanent, in fact, you can't even keep them even
if you should want to, and you don't want to, because these are bad ones. What you want is to get rid of them. This does not
require changing the situation or the other person or people involved. It only requires that you be willing to unload or discharge
the charge which is always around a "bad feeling".
How to discharge? Scream, yell, stamp your feet, hit pillows, kick the mattress while
lying down, shiver, shake, quake, tremble, cry, laugh, yawn, notice if your skin gets hot, red, itchy. This is all good stuff.
It is the natural, normal way to get rid of a bad feeling.
Don't forget to time it. If it's a real deep chronic one (bad feeling) you are allowed
to give yourself more time, but do time it.
When the time allowed is up, check in with yourself. When you are finished you should
feel better. Exhausted maybe, but somehow cleaned and refreshed, and now more able to think clearly. You can decide if, when,
and what it is possible for you to do to change things so that you will not get your buttons pushed on this subject so easily.
This does need to be done more than once. Do you remember that wonderful prayer that goes "God give me the Serenity to accept
the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can change, and the Wisdom to know the difference. This exercise
may be done as often as necessary and will result in the Wisdom you need.
I suggest you do the exercise as often as you find yourself complaining to your
friends or loved one. Make every whinning complaint a Compaint Session.
Every day is not too often. Once you begin to complain you can usually find those
"bad feelings". Continue to complain, louder, and more forcefully. Even if you feel like you are pretending until you find
that energy- the energy that is getting pushed when your buttons get pushed.
IF YOU DIDNT HAVE A BUTTON, IT COULDN'T BE PUSHED
AND YOU COULN'T BE PROVOKED!!!!
THEY AREN'T "doing it to you", they are
only showing you where your buttons are. THESE BUTTONS CAN BE DEFUSED. EVERY TIME YOU GET HOOKED. GO BE ALONE, AND DO
YOUR CONSCIOUS COMPLAINING. If you want to heal faster, do 10 minutes every day, even if your buttons are not pushed. Push
them yourself, by telling out loud, what it is you don't like, can't abide, didn't choose, and don't want. Or did choose once,
but don't know how to stop now. Call me if you have problems with this exercise. Please read my book first, it will help a
lot
Click here for next lesson only when you are ready.
Lesson #2
